They used to be so cute together. My daughter couldn't wait to be a big sister. She loved holding the baby, helped bottle-feed and change the nappies, played with him for hours. She shared all her toys and all her friends. She was the one to show him the ropes at the day care centre.
So what's changed? Is it that she's a school girl now? Is it that she's a girl and he's a - yuck! - boy? Is is just a phase?
According to Sarah's Say Today (it's a great column, well worth subscribing to), it's normal and even desirable. Sibling squabbles are the training ground for life, it's where you sort out unfairness and learn about combat if not compromise.
But when is too much too much? When should I get involved? Find out what experts say. And if you feel you should get involved, here's how.
Please share your own sibling rivalry stories. It will make me feel better.
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my two still get on most of the time. main reason they squabble is when one doesn't want to play the same game, or one shows the other what to do - kind of understandable stuff really - even I might snap/growl at someone for this. (get fed up of being shown what to do or told what to do...)
ReplyDeleteI get involved if they start shoving/pushing/hitting but luckily this isn't very common. Maybe I am lucky, hoping it will last ;-)
It is a healthy thing up to a point - my brother and I always used to fight as kids (mainly because I was envious of him I realise now) - but in Adulthood we became best of friends. Just make the realise that this sister/brother brother/brother sister/sister bond is something special and unique. That works for our two (most of the time, fingers crossed).
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